This weekend, we moved one step closer to clawing-back our adulthood. We took the three children to the cinema. There are moments in a child’s upbringing where you have cause to celebrate, such as when they grow out of nappies, when everyone can last at the table for Sunday lunch without getting down, or when every child can climb into the car on their own in under a minute. Such break-throughs prompt a collective sigh of relief.
We were fully prepared for one of us to make a quick exit from the cinema with the wriggling Toddler who has not yet fully grasped the art of whispering. At the very least, we were anticipating having to crawl out periodically throughout the film at the beck and call of every small bladder alert.
The Toddler was a little overwhelmed when we arrived at the Multiplex, convinced we were in the departure lounge of Heathrow. However, once he saw his brother and sister make a mad dash towards the popcorn counter and the vast array of sweets, he was ecstatic. He sprinted towards the chocolate covered raisins as if his life depended on it. In true Toddler style, his little legs did not quite do what they were supposed to under extreme levels of excitement. He slipped and did an impressive dive along the carpet, smashing his head on the lid of the Lemon Bonbons. Then came the familiar piercing scream as the egg shaped bruise rose on his small forehead. Meanwhile, our daughter busily scooped up and filled a bag with the most ludicrously expensive sugary items she could find whilst our son politely ordered some popcorn from a helpful man behind the counter. While I tended to The Toddler my husband battled over the sugar intake and cries of, “But Granny lets us have Slush Puppies.”
We head into the darkness of the cinema and park ourselves in a row of seats close to the exit. The children perch on small booster seats for optimum viewing and The Toddler nervously clutches his familiar muslin square. Amazingly, they stay sitting there for the next hour and a half, only moving to pick out another piece of popcorn or a strawberry bootlace. The Toddler is totally transfixed by the whole experience and even Dotty, the unborn baby, kicks with delight. As the credits roll, my husband and I can barely believe it. It has been a while, but we have made it through a feature length film at the cinema. It may be short lived but whether it’s Madagascar 2 or James Bond, we delighted in a glimpse of pre-parenthood.
Friday, 30 January 2009
Friday, 23 January 2009
The Mother In Trouble
A rather official looking letter landed on the doormat. It was from Dorset Police telling me I had been captured on camera in Poole, marginally exceeding the speed limit. They must have got the wrong car or even worse perhaps someone had been joy riding my car, I thought. Then I remembered driving through Poole on my way to Bournemouth a few weeks ago. I had three children in the back, we were late for a Pantomime and I was suffering from severe bouts of morning sickness. Unfortunately, the police were disinterested in my excuses and invited me on one of their Driving Awareness Courses.
At first, I kept quiet about my shameful ticking off but then my daughter discovered the letter and quizzed me about it over her cornflakes one morning. “Does that mean you’re going to prison?” asked my son. I explained that sometimes grown-ups get in trouble and have to get told off too.
I barely slept the night before the course. With my pregnancy hormones on full throttle, I worried about getting lost and turning up late for the course or worse – getting a speeding ticket en route. I arrived promptly in front of some large security gates. “Here for driving awareness?” bellowed a uniformed man. “Yes,” I replied rather sheepishly. Inside Reception, people sat around with their name stickers slapped to their chests, staring in humiliation at the ground. We were all there for the same reason. I felt like pleading, “Please let me go home. I’ve got three children and I was always good at school.”
The morning was spent in a classroom listening to various statistics on speeding. Then it was time for the various shocking film clips. We were given the option to leave the room if we found it too upsetting but none of us dared. No sooner had the film clip begun with a mother driving her son to school, I could feel the tears coming. I desperately tried to hold it together but my hormones were shrieking, “I’m a pregnant woman, get me out of here.” Even if they had shown us a clip from Animal Hospital I would have blubbed uncontrollably. Thank goodness for the cups of tea and, in my case, a handful of biscuits, which got me through it.
I arrived home exhausted and a little shell shocked. I popped my head round my son’s bedroom door. “Hi Mummy. Did you sit in a cell all day?” he asked. He almost seemed a little disappointed to hear about the classroom. As I closed the door he shouted, “I told all my class and my teachers that you were spending the day with the police.” Yes - I thought you might have.
At first, I kept quiet about my shameful ticking off but then my daughter discovered the letter and quizzed me about it over her cornflakes one morning. “Does that mean you’re going to prison?” asked my son. I explained that sometimes grown-ups get in trouble and have to get told off too.
I barely slept the night before the course. With my pregnancy hormones on full throttle, I worried about getting lost and turning up late for the course or worse – getting a speeding ticket en route. I arrived promptly in front of some large security gates. “Here for driving awareness?” bellowed a uniformed man. “Yes,” I replied rather sheepishly. Inside Reception, people sat around with their name stickers slapped to their chests, staring in humiliation at the ground. We were all there for the same reason. I felt like pleading, “Please let me go home. I’ve got three children and I was always good at school.”
The morning was spent in a classroom listening to various statistics on speeding. Then it was time for the various shocking film clips. We were given the option to leave the room if we found it too upsetting but none of us dared. No sooner had the film clip begun with a mother driving her son to school, I could feel the tears coming. I desperately tried to hold it together but my hormones were shrieking, “I’m a pregnant woman, get me out of here.” Even if they had shown us a clip from Animal Hospital I would have blubbed uncontrollably. Thank goodness for the cups of tea and, in my case, a handful of biscuits, which got me through it.
I arrived home exhausted and a little shell shocked. I popped my head round my son’s bedroom door. “Hi Mummy. Did you sit in a cell all day?” he asked. He almost seemed a little disappointed to hear about the classroom. As I closed the door he shouted, “I told all my class and my teachers that you were spending the day with the police.” Yes - I thought you might have.
Saturday, 17 January 2009
The Big Turn Out
With the children safely back at school, the house seems eerily quiet. I feel a bit like a spare part, aimlessly wandering round surveying rooms and wondering where to begin with the post holiday clear up.
First I must attend to the felt tip scribbles on the landing that mysteriously appeared one morning, much to the bewilderment of the children and one very red-faced toddler. I must also rub out the equally mysterious pencil marks from the wall beside the Toddler’s bed. “I saw Clover do it,” he said innocently when I confronted him, quick to pass the blame on to the artistic Labrador puppy.
Then my attention turns to the toy cupboard, which requires some serious attention. Armed with my bin bags, I open the door and a box of ‘Pick Up Stix’ tumbles out on top of me. I sift through boxes of playing cards, Top Trumps and Snap alongside piles of arts and crafts, play dough, puzzles, and endless games. It occurs to me that we only played one game in the holidays. This was an attempt at Snakes & Ladders that lasted five minutes at best. It resulted in my daughter running to her bedroom in tears as her brothers nudged their pieces along the board and refused point blank to slide down a snake.
I then stumble on a large box full of Play Mobil pieces. Connected together, they produce the most wonderful aeroplane, ambulance, camper van and police car and entertain the boys for hours on end. The problem is that it requires an adult to remain very patient when asked at least thirty times a day to, “put the wheels back on the plane”, “search for the pin size gun for the policeman,” or extract the, “old piece of apple that The Toddler wedged into the aeroplane’s hold a few weeks ago.” All this pales into insignificance when I unearth the Lego. Hundreds of tiny pieces lie redundant in a box with no trace of an instruction leaflet in sight. Occasionally, I recall my son appearing with the box during the holidays and saying, “Mummy, will you help me make a T14 Assault Tank?”
My bin liner only contains a few items that have been chewed by a dog or have obvious pieces missing. For a moment of madness, I am tempted to sweep the boxes and their contents into the bag without a thought. However, my guilty conscience takes over. The only solution is to embark on a massive building and fixing project. For the next few days, I must spend my time connecting hundreds of small pieces back together again, to reconstruct a mass of vehicles. For now, the Big Turn Out is on hold.
First I must attend to the felt tip scribbles on the landing that mysteriously appeared one morning, much to the bewilderment of the children and one very red-faced toddler. I must also rub out the equally mysterious pencil marks from the wall beside the Toddler’s bed. “I saw Clover do it,” he said innocently when I confronted him, quick to pass the blame on to the artistic Labrador puppy.
Then my attention turns to the toy cupboard, which requires some serious attention. Armed with my bin bags, I open the door and a box of ‘Pick Up Stix’ tumbles out on top of me. I sift through boxes of playing cards, Top Trumps and Snap alongside piles of arts and crafts, play dough, puzzles, and endless games. It occurs to me that we only played one game in the holidays. This was an attempt at Snakes & Ladders that lasted five minutes at best. It resulted in my daughter running to her bedroom in tears as her brothers nudged their pieces along the board and refused point blank to slide down a snake.
I then stumble on a large box full of Play Mobil pieces. Connected together, they produce the most wonderful aeroplane, ambulance, camper van and police car and entertain the boys for hours on end. The problem is that it requires an adult to remain very patient when asked at least thirty times a day to, “put the wheels back on the plane”, “search for the pin size gun for the policeman,” or extract the, “old piece of apple that The Toddler wedged into the aeroplane’s hold a few weeks ago.” All this pales into insignificance when I unearth the Lego. Hundreds of tiny pieces lie redundant in a box with no trace of an instruction leaflet in sight. Occasionally, I recall my son appearing with the box during the holidays and saying, “Mummy, will you help me make a T14 Assault Tank?”
My bin liner only contains a few items that have been chewed by a dog or have obvious pieces missing. For a moment of madness, I am tempted to sweep the boxes and their contents into the bag without a thought. However, my guilty conscience takes over. The only solution is to embark on a massive building and fixing project. For the next few days, I must spend my time connecting hundreds of small pieces back together again, to reconstruct a mass of vehicles. For now, the Big Turn Out is on hold.
Saturday, 10 January 2009
New Year Walk
We set off merrily from our cottage across the fields all suited and booted to avoid any small hands turning blue with cold. My husband cried out from the window, “Are you sure you’ll be able to cope on your own?” I glanced at the three children scampering after the two dogs and nodded confidently. “We’ll be absolutely fine. See you later,” I cried cheerily.
At this point, I must tell you that a few weeks ago, Clover the black Labrador puppy had come into season. For three weeks, she had been confined to lead walking in remote fields away from other dogs. I could certainly not cope with more than one pregnancy in the family for the moment. Now we were finally in the clear, I was not sure who needed the walk more – her or me – but my bump and I were very keen to scamper alongside her, sniffing the fresh crisp air with utter glee.
Into the second field and we came across our neighbour’s dog, Archie. He is the same age as Clover and they are the greatest of friends. Usually, it is wonderful to meet up with him and the dogs can exercise at least three fields worth of walking, just by chasing each other round. However, it soon became apparent that their normal puppy-like frolicking was not quite as innocent as usual. On this occasion, even young Archie was finding the blossoming Clover rather attractive. “Mummy, what are the dogs doing?” asked my daughter. “Just kissing,” I said trying to grab one of the frolicking dogs. “But why is Archie kissing Clover on her bottom?” queried my confused looking son. Thankfully, Clover was as confused by Archie’s canine cuddles as the children and scampered off. However, Archie found her teasing even more enticing.
I could suddenly picture our small baby arriving in the spring to join two dogs, three children and a litter of puppies. I broke into a sprint, chasing the two dogs around the field, screaming under the watchful eye of my jaw-dropped children. Finally, I heard the sweet sound of his owner’s call. Realising my predicament she ran over to grab poor frustrated Archie. Now with Clover firmly back on the lead we continued with our walk at a faster pace, our eyes peeled for any other dogs. Inevitably the children’s questions were now coming thick and fast. Striding ahead my hearing rapidly deafened by the winter wind, I made every effort to change the subject. We arrived at Granny’s house for a much needed pit stop. She took one look at me and said, “You look like you’re been dragged through a hedge backwards,” “She has,” said my son. “She’s been running round the field after Archie who wanted to kiss and cuddle Clover.” “I’ll put the kettle on,” she said with a giggle.
At this point, I must tell you that a few weeks ago, Clover the black Labrador puppy had come into season. For three weeks, she had been confined to lead walking in remote fields away from other dogs. I could certainly not cope with more than one pregnancy in the family for the moment. Now we were finally in the clear, I was not sure who needed the walk more – her or me – but my bump and I were very keen to scamper alongside her, sniffing the fresh crisp air with utter glee.
Into the second field and we came across our neighbour’s dog, Archie. He is the same age as Clover and they are the greatest of friends. Usually, it is wonderful to meet up with him and the dogs can exercise at least three fields worth of walking, just by chasing each other round. However, it soon became apparent that their normal puppy-like frolicking was not quite as innocent as usual. On this occasion, even young Archie was finding the blossoming Clover rather attractive. “Mummy, what are the dogs doing?” asked my daughter. “Just kissing,” I said trying to grab one of the frolicking dogs. “But why is Archie kissing Clover on her bottom?” queried my confused looking son. Thankfully, Clover was as confused by Archie’s canine cuddles as the children and scampered off. However, Archie found her teasing even more enticing.
I could suddenly picture our small baby arriving in the spring to join two dogs, three children and a litter of puppies. I broke into a sprint, chasing the two dogs around the field, screaming under the watchful eye of my jaw-dropped children. Finally, I heard the sweet sound of his owner’s call. Realising my predicament she ran over to grab poor frustrated Archie. Now with Clover firmly back on the lead we continued with our walk at a faster pace, our eyes peeled for any other dogs. Inevitably the children’s questions were now coming thick and fast. Striding ahead my hearing rapidly deafened by the winter wind, I made every effort to change the subject. We arrived at Granny’s house for a much needed pit stop. She took one look at me and said, “You look like you’re been dragged through a hedge backwards,” “She has,” said my son. “She’s been running round the field after Archie who wanted to kiss and cuddle Clover.” “I’ll put the kettle on,” she said with a giggle.
Friday, 2 January 2009
Breaking the News
A couple of months ago, we broke some news to the children. We told them we were expecting a baby and it would be arriving in May. Our six-year-old daughter jumped up and down with excitement totally thrilled. “I thought you looked fatter,” she cried. The Toddler shared her glee, not quite sure why he was cheering but enjoying the moment anyway. Our five-year-old son reacted as if I had just told him supper was ready. He looked up briefly, said nothing and returned to his Power Rangers game.
Our daughter quickly said, “I’m happy to do any night feeds for you. Perhaps the baby should sleep in my room to make it easier.” Hooray for daughters enthusiastic about taking on the role of a maternity nurse.
The Toddler has now adjusted to the idea of having a new sibling, helped by my daughter’s constant talk of babies. With his head bent down towards my tummy, he shouts, “You be good for Mummy.” Not surprisingly, he has no concept of time and as far as he is concerned the baby is arriving at any moment. Each morning, he goes into the baby’s room and peers into his old cot. “Baby not here yet, Mummy,” he shouts. If only it were that simple, I think to myself.
The other regular topic raised by my forward-thinking daughter is what to call the baby. Desperately hoping that she may finally have a sister, to dilute the boys, she runs through lists of girls’ names, focusing heavily on all those featured in Mamma Mia and High School Musical. Our five-year-old has been making lists of all the boys’ names in his class, ignoring any suggestion that it could be a girl. He says, “I just have to have a brother because I’m bored of the one I’ve got.” Eventually, they settle on the name, ‘Dotty’, which is now what the baby is referred as. They came up with this based on the simple reason that at that time the baby was tiny, not much bigger than a dot or a full stop.
Each day, my daughter asks, “Do you feel Dotty is a girl or a boy today Mummy?” I reply truthfully that I have absolutely no idea as all the symptoms are different from any previous pregnancy, be it male or female. My son looks up, “Oh I know. Dotty is a border terrorist.” Let’s hope not. Happy New Year.
Our daughter quickly said, “I’m happy to do any night feeds for you. Perhaps the baby should sleep in my room to make it easier.” Hooray for daughters enthusiastic about taking on the role of a maternity nurse.
The Toddler has now adjusted to the idea of having a new sibling, helped by my daughter’s constant talk of babies. With his head bent down towards my tummy, he shouts, “You be good for Mummy.” Not surprisingly, he has no concept of time and as far as he is concerned the baby is arriving at any moment. Each morning, he goes into the baby’s room and peers into his old cot. “Baby not here yet, Mummy,” he shouts. If only it were that simple, I think to myself.
The other regular topic raised by my forward-thinking daughter is what to call the baby. Desperately hoping that she may finally have a sister, to dilute the boys, she runs through lists of girls’ names, focusing heavily on all those featured in Mamma Mia and High School Musical. Our five-year-old has been making lists of all the boys’ names in his class, ignoring any suggestion that it could be a girl. He says, “I just have to have a brother because I’m bored of the one I’ve got.” Eventually, they settle on the name, ‘Dotty’, which is now what the baby is referred as. They came up with this based on the simple reason that at that time the baby was tiny, not much bigger than a dot or a full stop.
Each day, my daughter asks, “Do you feel Dotty is a girl or a boy today Mummy?” I reply truthfully that I have absolutely no idea as all the symptoms are different from any previous pregnancy, be it male or female. My son looks up, “Oh I know. Dotty is a border terrorist.” Let’s hope not. Happy New Year.
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